This will be my final post about “Something Terrible” but I wanted to let everyone know that he sent me my refund. It took sending him three emails on Kickstarter and three through Gmail, but he finally broke down. When I checked my email this morning, I had a notice from PayPal that it was there! I was so excited! Was I being a pain in his ass, yes, but after his behavior, he deserved it.
So here’s what we have learned in the past week. If he owes you a refund, public shaming does not work with him. He doesn’t care. However, if you harass him daily via email, you will get your refund. It’s happened twice now. For the first person it took two emails, for me it took three. I think my sister was secretly hoping it would go on forever so that I would keep writing snarky emails.
I think his “apology” is the best that he can give due to his personality. Some people can say the worlds but they are never heartfelt. This happens a lot with people with mental issues, PTSD, depression, autism, personality disorders. And of course, people who believe they have done nothing wrong can say the words but not really mean them. Children who have been forced to say they are sorry when growing up *Tell your sister you’re sorry!* without having it explained to them why they are apologizing have this problem too. *Bat, you shouldn’t hit your sister, it can hurt her. You really didn’t mean to hurt your sister did you? No, I didn’t think so. Why don’t you apologize to her?* Of course it took me raising a child to adult before learning this lesson. When the second batch came around I understood it. 🙂 But I digress.
Here are the emails I sent him and his reply.
In closing, do I wish him ill will or harm? No, I hope he does right by everyone he has wronged. And I hope that he gets therapy. This has proved he needs it.